He's Obnoxious...and a TransvestiteTue, Mar 31st 1998
I am a close friend of a homosexual and transvestite living as a woman. While I'm a straight man, I am not a homophobe, but I must confess an ignorance as to how to be supportive (a good fiend) to this person. In addition, some of her behavior is increasingly inappropriate, but any time I voice this she responds in an overly emotional fashion and accuses me of just thinking of her as a freak and not caring about her, which is untrue. My family is unaware that this person is anatomically male, and would undoubtedly react badly (if not violently) if they were aware of this. I strongly suspect that she is taking female hormones which may (in part) be responsible for some of her more bizarre behavior. I'm at the end of my rope and I don't know what to do. I do not know how to deal with her and this issue.
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