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A few years back I met a man at work and we really hit it off. We would see each other off and on hang out and watch movies together etc. I was young and had only had one boyfriend before him and he knew this. He was a big guy and about 8 years my senior. One night I drove out to his house to show him my new car and we went up to his apartment to watch a move as we usually did. He asked me if I wanted to watch it on his room. I didn't think much of it and said ok, because up to this pont I trusted him. When we got to his room we laid down on the bed. He told me he wanted to "do something." He started to take my shirt off and I said I didn't want to do this. Then he told me to lay back. Again I told him to stop and to please not do this. He pulled my pants down and proceeded to perform oral sex on me. I was too terrified to do anything. He was so much bigger than me and was getting angry that I wasn't doing what he was asking that I just laid there. Afterwards I got dressed and left. Never told anyone went home and acted as if nothing happened. I just told my mom and sister a few days ago. I have two questions... One, is forced oral sex considered a form of rape? The other is should I talk to a therapist? I have had three boyfriends since and whenever I am in an intimate situation sometimes even just kissing I all of a sudden start to feel like I am going to cry and be sick. My face gets hot and I have to pull away. I am approaching 28 and am still (aside from the above event) a virgin and the thought of sex terrifies me. Please advise. Thank you.

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