Mom's ProtectorMon, Oct 4th 2004
I was just recently sent to jail and had battery charges against me. I was protecting my mother because my dad was getting ready to beat on her and I stopped it. Anyways, I know i did the right thing and my mom finally decides to get a divorce because this isn't the first time. My older brother finds a place for me and my mother to stay until my father moves out. We are finally in our own house again but my father keeps finding reasons to keep coming over to the house to pick up items. I know he is playing mind games trying to get my mom back and it seems to be working. He threatened to commit suicide and my mom feels as if it would be her fault if he did. Right now i wouldn't care if he did. My brother's wife said she was talking with my mom and she said that my mom told her, "If (my dad) moves back in then (I) will have to find another place to live. I feel as if she is giving in to his crap and leaving me in the dark. She tells us that if he gets help then its a possibility they will start seeing each other again. I honestly don't think my dad will ever get help or is able to be helped. Is there anything I can do to show my mom that she really doesn't need a guy like my father? I'm pretty sure my mom is just scared about financial situations on how to survive and scared of my dad period. I believe she would feel at fault for his suicide if he happened to do it. She is giving in way too fast. Is there anything I can do? I feel cheated!!!
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