HelpMon, May 21st 2012
I'm a 19 year old female. I recently moved from my mums house and moved in with my boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend lived quite far apart so we decided to move closer to where he lived and where his work is. Anyway, back at school I had lots of friends, had a couple of best friends and was very confident. Since I left school and went to college I had lost contact with almost all my friends and things started to go downhill. I felt very lonely and lacked confidence. I had one best friend and we always use to go out together. We would talk about how low we feel without any other friends and how we could make more.
I just couldn't seem to make myself happy and felt very depressed, I cried almost everyday. 3 years later and I'm stuck in the same position. Family is great but I thought I needed a new fresh start, so now that I've moved, I felt a little happier because everything was new to me. now I feel very, very lonely and distant from everyone. I don't see my family much because I live 100 miles away. My old best friend has found many friends and I feel pushed out even though we speak. I have my boyfriend but I need some friends.
I work and on my days off I sit at home feeling upset when I think of my life. My whole life I've never really achieved anything and I've lost all motivation to do anything new. My boyfriend has a lot of friends and we sometimes go out with them. When he receives texts or phone calls I kind of get jealous because I have absolutely no friends and isolated myself away from everyone.
I find it very difficult to talk to anyone new.
I don't know who I am anymore and my life sucks. I really need some help on how I can be more sociable
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