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Pain or since you're female it's just in your head!

Sun, Oct 29th 2006

I am a 31 year old female and have been unable to have sexual intercourse for going on five years now because of the pain it causes. It used to be only occasional pain, but for the last five years it’s been every time my husband & I try intercourse. For the last two years we haven’t even tried it because I already know what the result will be. I talked to my gynecologist about the problem and he said he could find nothing physically wrong and suggested a lubricant. Gee there’s novel idea! Like we wouldn’t have thought about that five years ago! He ‘s been my doctor sine I was in my early teens and he just made it seem it was all in my head. My husband suggested I try a new female gynecologist as he thought maybe a female would better relate to my problem. So, I did and she said everything looked fine and I should try a lubricant! So much for the female connection! I’m a very sane female and know when something hurts and have no reason to make up pain I’m not in. I love sex with my husband and believe he may be one of the very few men on earth that is more concerned with me than his own needs. At this point I’m out of answers, as I can’t seem to beat the, "it must be in your head" diagnosis! I need a resource to find a local physician that would be willing to spend a little more time than a standard gynecological exam and see if they could discover the cause of the pain. Any help here?

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