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A question concerning gender identity.

Sun, Nov 26th 2006

When I was a young girl, I insisted on wearing boys' clothing, and even cut my hair short. Many, many people often mistook me for a boy, and I even pretended to be a boy sometimes. I had hobbies that my older brother had, and still have. He told me one time that I was 'a boy trapped in a girl's body', and it still echoes in my mind to this very day. Today, when I look back on my younger childhood, I wonder if I have, or still have some kind of gender identity issue. Today, I dress normally and look like a girl, but nearly every waking hour I have an ongoing thought, or fantasy obsession with male homoeroticism. I'm not sure if that is pushing the boundary of the question that I'm about to ask, but almost every night for several years I have had these thoughts and gain sexual arousal from them as well (I'm not into porn though). I've discussed this with someone and they said I might be bisexual, but I am not attracted to women in a sexual way. So my question is, do I have a gender identity problem? Could I just be a male homosexual in a female's body, or are these fantasies on a separate plane from gender identity?

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