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Sometimes I Regret Not Having a Proper Relationship With Another Woman.

Thu, Dec 2nd 2010

I'm a 21 year old woman and happily engaged to a man I've been with for three years. I do want to marry him and have children with him, but he doesn't know I'm bisexual. I never told him because it didn't seem relevant. Now I feel we've been together too long for me to just come out and say it. He's also not the most understanding about sexuality. He's not homophobic, his best friend is gay, but he had a very religious upbringing and I think he's conditioned to believe sexuality is a choice. Additionally, he's overweight and I know he sometimes thinks I'm not sexually attracted to him. I don't really want to make that worse by saying I also like women.

The problem is that I sometimes regret never having had the experience of sex with another woman. I'm jealous of all the people who accepted their sexuality before they met the person of their dreams. It's not that I don't want to be with him, I just feel a bit that I'm lacking the experience of knowing for a fact that I'm bisexual, and while it's not a constant feeling, it nags at the back of my mind. I've been in love with girls and had relationships with them, but I've never had sex with one. I've never cheated, and never would. I don't see the point of being with someone and wanting someone else. I just want to not think about it, because it's not going to be relevant as long as I'm with him.

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